The
most sacred thing is not always exposed; it is often hidden
and at times invisible. God is invisible and is the most
sacred thing. Sexual union is sacred as it is the means to
procreate, but we have degraded it by not respecting it and
by doing it at times in public places where we are peeped.
When the Lord procreated to give birth to the universe,
nobody was there. The seed germinates in the recesses of the
soil; innumerable events on the microscopic as well as the
macroscopic level are hidden, invisible, thus non-profane
and hence sacred.
Similarly,
the sexual organ is not exposed to the eyes of one and all.
However, the ugly happening is that sex has become a taboo,
though being sacred. It is the source of love, life and on
the macroscopic level, it is the base of the whole
existence. Such a sacred thing as sex has been turned into a
taboo - why? Maybe the reason is that it is the power that
will make man a god. Mystics say that the sexual energy can
be transformed and its effect can lead man to have a very
developed mind, so much so that the sexual energy can
contribute to lead man to cosmic consciousness. Therefore it
is natural to kill this possibility that will create a free
man, not a slave. Man can be commanded only when he is weak,
and man is so weak as far as sex is concerned that he is
easily manipulated.

In
my opinion, the taboo around sex has been created to retain
man in a stagnant state. But such a cunningness and sin
cannot last for long. One day man’s understanding of sex
will grow so much that he will no longer be a slave to it.
This wisdom will cause his energy to move upward and will
make him an illumined being. He will have enough fuel to
make his mind stay in a state of constant awakening. That
will be the day of real celebration, for it is only when one
is free that one can celebrate. The pouring of water on the
Shiva Lingam is symbolical of transcendence of the sex
energy.
Even
in the third millennium, sexuality is perhaps the subject of
greatest taboo. Human being is the greatest miracle-maker.
Every problem is created by us and the solution too rests in
our hand. Man is sexual from head to toe, yet he wants to
escape from it when the subject comes on the table. Every
cell of our body has been made from sexual energy and sexual
orgasm. Pleasure is fundamentally the same, but through the
sexual contact, one touches such an intensity and subtlety
of pleasure that we are irresistibly drawn towards it. The
big question mark remains though we have reached
considerable height in scientific research. Mystics,
however, have gone very deep into the subject to discover
the secret that lies behind the appearance.
In
the East, they have even invented methods to go deep into
sex in order to have a greater understanding. They have
called this Tantra. The mystics say that the pleasure
achieved through sexual union is basically divine. A glimpse
of God is tasted when the sexual act reaches the ultimate
point called coitus. Said in another way, through sexual
intercourse, one can peep through eternity for a split
second. Our sexual energy is produced from food, the intake
of oxygen, sunlight and the mind. One cell from the male and
one from the female form a complete human being. Their
meeting at the physical level releases energy from both
sides. Therefore, we meet on a gross level, then on a subtle
level. The gross level is bodily embrace while the subtle
level is the love that is shared. Furthermore, the vital
fluid and the sperm, which are the essence of the man, and
the ovum, which is the vitality of the woman, meet too -
this is the subtle union.
However,
the meeting is so momentary that we hardly feel the pleasure
of a deep union. It is one of the most fundamental reasons
why we are so obsessed by it. If we eat very little, then we
will want food every now and then. It will become a habit.
Nowadays sex has become a bad habit. It is done with a sense
of guilt. When there is much love between the persons who
have sex, then the moment of pleasure increases and one
becomes less obsessed by it. The result is that the energy
starts moving upward. In fact, the purpose of the sexual
energy is to procreate and to act as fuel for meditation.
Actually, we procreate and waste the rest of the energy in
habit and obsession. Through meditation, one can have much
more joy of the same quality and that joy can be increased
to such an extent so as to create an explosion of our being.
This is called samadhi in the East, which can be translated
as cosmic consciousness.
Man
is a strange being: he toils a lot to feed himself, then the
energy he has produced is thrown out as waste by a moment of
excitation. An iota of the energy can produce a complete
human being who could be an Einstein, a Vivekanand, a Jesus
or a Krishna! What will be the outcome if the whole
potential is transformed?
Both
man and woman possess male and female aspects. Their union
is meant to produce the union of the inner man and woman
without depending on each other on a bodily basis to attain
the same orgasm as in sexual union. Both man and woman are
complementary to each other. Marriage was meant to be a
mutual consent between people of the same level of vibration
to help each other to attain oneness with the Whole by
uniting the inner male and female principles or by uniting
the positive and negative poles. But alas! Wrong knowledge
and lack of discipline has made sex a taboo.
Sexuality
or sexual union is the mergence of the positive and negative
but also the complementary elements of nature for the
evolution of life. When the gross level is united,
procreation is the result. When the meeting is subtle,
illumination is the result. Darkness-light, matter-energy,
male-female are opposite yet complementary aspects upon
whose basis the drama of creation is being played. God is in
an eternal sexual intercourse in the form of matter-energy,
Satti-Shiva, darkness-light. This is the reason why the
process of creation is eternal.
The
sexual energy should be saved and transformed so as to
attain the apex of joy, which frees one from all forms of
suffering. This, however, does not mean sexual repression -
one has to go through it, know it deeply and then transcend
it. Sexual union is the first rung in the ladder of
spiritual evolution. Meditation and illumination are the
ultimate rungs. Without proper sex education, no religious
or spiritual evolution is possible. Gradually as the sexual
fluid is transformed, the mind becomes powerful and pure.
Geniuses can be produced in a greater number if the sexual
energy is transformed. Meditation is the only science that
can bring about this transformation and it should start at
the age of puberty when the sex centre starts operating.
Sexual intercourse should be for procreation and experience
of bliss and thus Divinity. One should not be a slave to it.
In our actual civilisation, sex has become such a problem
that one feels like carrying a burden and one seeks an
opportunity to unload oneself from it. Sexual relation
nowadays amounts to sneezing.
Man
conceals infinite possibility. By using the sexual energy,
he can open a great door. The snake around the neck of Lord
Shiva symbolises the sexual energy. Observe the Shiva Lingam
and you will notice a snake coiled around it. It symbolises
the kundalini power or the vital energy in both man and
woman, because the Shiva Lingam is both a male and female
symbol. One of the significations of the sacred thread or
janev of the Hindu is to remind the young student of the
importance of celibacy, which means the transformation of
the vital fluid. Sex or sexual union is a sacred thing and
should be regarded as such - only then one can be free from
its obsession. My own realisation and advice is to go
through it and use it as a means to attain cosmic
consciousness.